Unconditional love… wow! What an eye opener for me. To me it is the highest form of love. When you can love someone unconditionally, you achieve true love. In the story “Abandoned!”, I realized my son never even considered I had betrayed him, or let him down. All he wanted was my love and understanding. There was an instant guilt for me but a deluge of overwhelming love. So powerful it brought tears to my eyes. What could be more wonderful to know you are loved without conditions attached? That is the essence of unconditional love!

Far too often in our modern world, we make offers and deals with conditions. We have expectations. It’s a what’s in it for me world. When we offer love but attach conditions like… I’ll love you if you love me back, Or… I’ll love you as long as you maintain your good looks Or… I’ll love you if you keep having great sex with me, Or… I’ll love you as long as you keep providing for me. That’s conditional love. Not pure love.

People seem to have lost out on the concept of no conditions. True love is like unconditional surrender. You have faith or belief that the other person will do the right thing and reciprocate but you don’t have a guarantee or condition of performance attached. Love is also about belief that the other person is like you and wants to give back. That’s where the belief is. That’s the leap of faith thing. That’s the vulnerability, the surrender to the belief.

Faith is how love works. Imagine if Christians said to themselves in their prayers to God that I’ll believe in you if you reward me or answer my prayers. That’s not faith, that’s a conditional belief. When someone donates to a charity, it should be without reward or recognition otherwise it’s not a true donation, it’s a conditional deal.